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The story of Little Man

(Mr. DeVoe)...I have been waiting a very long time to get to the beginning
of my story...I had no idea when I started the hip hop above that I was in labor
nor did I have any idea that I would birth at your feet...

I feel tired and ecstatic.... my little man...he is that redundancy...a beautiful baby!
as they all are...inside their tiny little bodies ...thanks be to God...and bless you Father DeVoe.

May you and your family be always enveloped with God's grace. Amen

tis U who should B writin a book ... and i not gven 2 kssem up...i try my hand at hip hop styl b cuz i typ w 1 fingr...i not jiv...1 phd, 1 ma, couple ba..nvr lrn 2 typ...did use 2...now w Parkinson i b usin 1

...last 3 mo i write on 5 of my own web sites, an have +250 friends, my 17 son lives me ...& of course thse 12 pigeons in my pear tree

...some site titles: lot of money good until it isn't...fish R jumpin...higher & higher...my country tis a vie...and, pulse ck...

2 C U can go 2: http://spirit-in-sky-paul-4.blogspot.com/ but back 2 my main point...

what you did/do with family is a blazin' torch in an ocean of darkness...do not hide it under a basket...i hlp if askd....

START STORY HERE I will close with my thoughts in a form that I do know how to use... I spent my life communicating in the accepted style and I can tell the truth or I can spin it with the best in the business...whether the best be in politics or marketing...

information is always the first causality of war. Now with photo altering (or enhancement if one prefers) the already invisible line is both false and "big mistake, when you write here never stop to think what it is you wish to say or they "THEY" will kick you off...

false and real. This next election will come to pass with your help or without it. I did, do & will support Barack but I am and have been a non-party kind of guy. I seldom seem to be on a track where there is much traffic, if you get my drift. "Why look honey our boy is the only one in-step."

Let me make you and , may I, Jackie, be the poster parents that my story telling can use to connect people together. It is the truth that my Lord allows me to hang on to....we are all of the same Father...we all wish to be connected to family as we know it. For myself that is with and through GOD's grace and the Holy Trinity ...the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit...amen.


I refuse to allow this computer to determine when I am done.

So, a story: .

It seems there was once a nice young man who appeared to be carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders. So much so he soon was referred to as little man. Well, when little man was very little, his gentle and loving parents brought him over to the place they were told was close by.

So it came to pass that little man was baptized at St. Charles Catholic Church in San Carlos, CA the first day of August, 1943.

three months old at the time, little man felt it was fine with him.

lucky for you...I just lost the story re: intervening 66 years...not much to be missed, but back to conclusion...

place: sister Church to mine

which is St. Theresa in Palm Springs, CA (perhaps you saw Cher's eulogy to Sonny Bono; his Church also).

Date: May 15, 2010.

Occasion: The Sacrament of Confirmation.

Quoting, "Paul J. Servelle, received and sealed with the gift of the Holy Spirit."

…and so it came to pass that little man found his true way home.

The beginning of spirit-in-sky-paul.

An All But Empty Tool Box

When all you have in your tool-box is a hammer, everything begins
to look like a nail…


Due to the vagaries of life, I have been a primary care giver for two sets of biological children.

My first years were 1969 - 1975. My first child was a daughter born in 1969. I was a graduate student and part-time college instructor. These years were during the counter-culture period. A Dad and his daughter were viewed as trend setters and breaking new ground. It was assumed that I would be a model for male parenting for the future.

My second period began in 1994 with the birth of my third child and first son. At age 51 I was almost always mistaken as the grandfather. As a grandfather with a feminine touch and therefore a welcome and admired addition.

You’ve probably heard the phrase “driving while black,” which refers to a perception that black drivers are more likely to be stopped by cops. This was whispered in the African-American community for years before it broke out into the wider cultural conversation and was gradually validated by empirical studies.

Similarly, stay-at-home dads have whispered for years about feeling unfairly targeted for "parenting while male," and recently their concerns have started to get mainstream attention.

In last week's Wall Street Journal, Free-Range Kids author Lenore Skenazy explored what happens when “when almost any man who has anything to do with a child can find himself suspected of being a creep.”

At some point, though, I realized being a full-time father was my role and that’s what my wife and kids needed more so than a paycheck. Once I reached this mindset, what other mothers thought of me didn’t matter anymore. I just did the best I could, and tried to be as charming as possible. In a way, it turned the tables because most of these mothers had insecurities of their own in their role.

I think that’s the best answer. Just do the best you can. Love your kid shamelessly, and don’t hold back. Reach out and build relationships. Be a big boy and rise above the playground squabbles—hard as it may be. The kids—and the country—will be better off for it.

“It’s clear dads have become much more hands-on when it comes to parenting. From cooking meals to driving the kids to soccer practice, dads have been consistently taking on increased roles at home. Here at Salary.com, we see fathers as versatile workers who perform a myriad of day-to-day jobs that would make them attractive and valuable to any employer.”

Just in time for Father’s Day, Salary.com has released an intriguing survey of 1,074 stay-at-home and working dads.
This year’s survey found stay-at-home dads work an average of 52.9 hours a week. Factoring in base pay plus overtime, these dads would earn $60,128 a year. Working fathers would be paid $33,858 a year after spending 30.6 hours a week on parenting duties. And that’s on top of working an average of 44 hours a week at their day jobs.
The survey was in part motivated by the 154,000 American men who became stay-at-home dads last year.

But how about we start giving dads the love they deserve

The majority of the men responding reported that they spent at least 30 hours a week as primary caregiver. Twenty-four percent claimed they had been refused entry to a playground or playgroup, while a majority had felt they had been criticized by other parents in public. Most also felt this treatment was based on the fact that they were male.

If these men, who are not only fathers on the playground, but coaches, role models, and mentors, too—if these men are prevented from being human in this way, what is that teaching the children about the role men play in their lives? A society that believes in gender equality should recognize the importance of men as well as women in raising kids. As more and more men take on the traditional homemaker’s role, we are going to see a lot more dads at mom’s groups. Moms, you’re going to have to make room. But this is a good thing.

Jeremy Adam Smith's book is a long awaited and much needed new perspective on the roles of men in the emotional development of children. Particularly boys.
When a boys emotional development kit contains nothing but a hammer, the world of such boys is seen as a landscape full of nails to be hammered into submission.
Pray that stay--at-home Dads offer our boys a rich variety of new tools for their kits.


2 months and 250+ friends This is Spirit-in-sky-Paul as of today, June 24, 2011.


Journal entry 06/22/05

Beginning in the early nineteen fifties as wide-spread access to in-home TV began, our knowledge and perception of children has come, in large part, from popular TV personalities. From Art Linkletter‘s “kids say the funniest things“, to Mr. Rogers’ serene neighborhood; to learning with Big Bird & Barney, to having fun with Bill Cosbys’ “hey, hey, hey”, our idealized child was bright, happy, knowing, loving and virtuous. The child development experts, from Dr. Spock, to Dr. Brazelton and, now, Dr Phil were more than ready to validate this version of what a normal child could be if only they were “appropriately” nurtured.

A disconnect occurs when we try to reconcile this “model” child with all the real children that we know. A source of the disconnect is how few of our children are “appropriately” nurtured. While the details of “appropriately” would undoubtedly be debated, I believe a consensus exists for the broad elements
of such nurturing. The elements would include: safety, consistency, respect, affection, positive reinforcement, caring inter-action, play, talking, reading and holding. The providers of this nurturing can
be anyone who can “genuinely” offer such nurturing. The sad and troubling reality is that there are vastly fewer providers of “genuine” nurturing then there are children to be nurtured.

Little mention will be made of the obvious outcomes resulting so often from the absence of nurturing parenting. Generations of single moms (both young and those not so young), school drop-outs, bullies, and, in too many instances, non-feeling, loners that do monstrous deeds. Far too few in our society ever develop an understanding of their own self -worth and therefore are unable to imbue others with it. Lacking a sense of something (anything) having value, it easily is concluded that all things (including lives) are value-less. And value-less things need no consideration, or compassion or other human emotion.

My focus, instead is on this question: “if parenting (or it’s absence) is so powerful in determining who we become, why do we leave it to chance.?” One would expect that we would forget about everything else and concentrate our full attention on improving the chances (e.g. “increasing the odds”) that we end up with individuals who understand and respect the notion that all of our individual actions, good/and bad ones, come with some consequence attached like a shadow. And, alas, that the individual gives a damn about that consequence.



Now we are engaged in a great (civil) war, testing whether that nation, or any nation, so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure. We are met on a great battle-field of that war.

The world will little note, nor long remember what we say here, but it can never forget what they did here. It is for us the living, rather, to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they who fought here have thus far so nobly advanced. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us ?that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause for which they gave the last full measure of devotion ?that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain ?that this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom ?and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth. (in part - the Gettysburg Address)

PARENTING IN AMERICA---INCREASING THE ODDS

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It's time for less talk, more action. Nay. It's past time. It's past time for the "united people" of the "united states" to "unite". No partisanship. No right/left wing. No religious bias. No racial lines. No gender lines.

Who wants to start?